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Parental Guidance: Educational article: This article
refers to human reproductive organs again and again, and discusses some
intimate sexual material, although not in a pornographic manner. Parental
guidance is recommended not to explain the meaning of terms, but rather the
meaning of the content.
Sex
and sexual orientation
“Sexual
pleasure resides not in the act, but rather its’ culmination.”
This article was long
overdue as I owed it to both the sections of the society; the straights and the
gays. As the ‘Gay Rights’ issue has been burning in societies world over, including
in Russia where a controversial legislation threatens to tarnish the image of
winter Olympics 2014, it is time for me to put things into a neutral
perspective. In this write-up I will explain how sexual orientation works, is
Russian legislation completely wrong or partially correct (there’s a reason why
I say so and I will explain it) and also make it clear where I stand on the
issue. So lets’ get started.
ð Sex, how it works?
Every organism has
three basic drives (or needs); basic because they are the most important for an
organism’s survival, as well as the propagation of species. The moment an
organism comes to life it needs food to survive, next comes safety from
physical harm, and finally the need to leave behind posterity. An organism can
and will go to any extent to fulfill these needs. Morality is not a question,
that’s how powerful these three drives are.
Now the thing with sex
is; people believe it is the act which is pleasurable. The truth however is;
sexual pleasure is derived from the hormones released at the culmination of the
act, namely, oxytocin in females, and dopamine in males. The act of arousing or
exciting external sexual organs, like penis or vagina, within itself does not
give anyone sexual pleasure (I’ll explain it a bit more below). The sexual
pleasure is felt at the culmination of such an arousal; ejaculation of sperms
in males, and orgasm in females. While the ejaculation and orgasm are the
things most humans identify as the source of pleasure, they are nothing more
than external markers of the culmination of the act. The real pleasure comes
from the release of afore mentioned hormones by our body into our blood
streams.
Now before I explain
the role of thoughts in the act, let me delve on the ways of sexual arousal or
excitation of external organs, as it will shed more light on what makes a
person straight or gay.
As a man I have two
ways to arouse or excite my penis; partner or proxy. In the first I can put my
penis in a vagina (female), anus (female or male) or mouth (female or male) of
a partner, and in the later, I can rub it against a pillow, mattress, or just
use my hands. A female can excite her vagina using a male partner’s penis, or a
partner-cum-proxy (female partner, using fingers or objects), or just proxy
(objects). However, this excitation will give a male or a female no more
pleasure than the thoughts enjoyed in brain, which could also have been achieved
by watching or reading porn, or just doing some other recreation activity which
a person enjoys, like dancing, sports etc. What differentiates the pleasure of
sex from other pleasures is the ejaculation or orgasm at the end of such
excitation events, that is, the release of hormones inside the body. A man or a
woman can actually excite themselves on their own without even thinking of
sexual act, and still get the same pleasure at the end of it as having real sex.
The only difference would be the lack of enjoyment coming from the thoughts
associated with sex, or should I say, the satisfaction of doing it.
This brings us to the
most important aspect of sexual activity, as separate from sexual pleasure; the
thought process. Sexual thoughts give us a pleasure of their own, even without
the involvement of sexual organs, or the indulgence in sexual activity. Reading
or watching pornographic material, and thinking or fantasizing sexual escapades
falls in this category.
While arousing or
exciting sexual organs, whether with a partner or proxy, there is a distinct
chain of sexual thoughts going on in an individual’s brain. These thoughts,
although wrongly believed to be pleasurable, actually determine the level of
satisfaction an individual will derive from the act at the culmination. Human
beings develop liking for not just the activities, but the way they perform
them too. Sexual pleasure may be a result of hormones released by our bodies,
but sexual satisfaction is the result of the thoughts that culminate along with
the act. This is the reason why masturbation (or self arousal of sexual organs)
is not as pleasurable, or should I say as satisfying as the real act. What are
fetishes? These are association of certain objects or behavior patterns with
the sexual excitation process that gives an individual a higher level of
satisfaction at the culmination of sexual activity. So where does being gay or
straight stand?
ð Sex and sexual
orientation:
Organisms of different
species and origins have bodies designed differently to reproduce their
posterity. Some plants and organisms have distinct male and female members in
their populations; others have individuals who double up as female and males,
with sex organs of both kinds. Human beings have separate female and male
members in their population. So biologically speaking, being gay or lesbian is
just a fetish, a chain of thoughts developed by individual brains that maximizes
pleasure, or rather satisfaction derived from the sexual activity when it is
performed with the member of the same sex. So is it wrong or right? And how
does sexual orientation affect rights of an individual in a society?
Religiously speaking, I
do not believe in God! There is no God, and if there is no God, there is no
Satan, no sin, and no soul. So as much as the notion that homosexuals are
sinners holds no water for me, so does the assertions of homosexual community
that they are men trapped in female bodies, or females trapped in male bodies.
The simple truth is; an individual has developed a liking for the chain of
thoughts that arises and culminates with sexual activity performed with a
member of the same sex. Was the development of such a psychological fixation a
result of a severe dislike for the opposite sex’s general attitude, or a lack
of self-confidence in dealing with the opposite sex, a result of some abuse as
a child, or a revolt against the society by way of indulging in a forbidden
act, or an initiation into a lifestyle by another member of the minority
community, all this is immaterial. Such and many other factors will always be
there in the society, affecting our perceptions all the time. That is why some
people realize many years later in their lives that they are enjoying sexual
activity (that is, getting more satisfaction out of the act) more with members
of the same sex, than their partner from the opposite sex. Fetishes and notions
can develop anytime. The more important question is of rights as an individual
in a society.
ð Rights of Homosexual
communities:
As a member of a
minority community living overseas, I have personally experienced the ugly side
of discrimination, both in US, as well as Australia. As such I know exactly the
pain members of homosexual community go through everyday due to the attitudes
of community towards them. As a member of a minority community I believe, “No
person should ever be discriminated against for any class reasons, including
their sexual orientation.” How a person enjoys their sexual activity is a
private matter, and not the concern of the society, as long as it is not
affecting the rightful interests of another member of the community, as in an
infidel relationship with another individual’s spouse.
Thus I believe
homosexuals should have equal right to marriage, and having children. Marriage
is nothing more than a social recognition to a couple’s sexual and life commitment
to each other, thus separating their union from infidel relationships. And as
far as children are concerned; if children of straight parents can develop
homosexual orientation, I see no reason why homosexuals cannot raise children
with straight orientations.
Discriminating and
bullying of homosexuals means humanity is doing a disservice to itself by not
tapping all the human resources and intellect efficiently. Such an attitude is
contrary to the needs of advancement of science, technology, arts and culture;
basically the humanity.
ð Truth about sexual orientation
propaganda and why I said ‘partially right’:
The thing about sexual
activity is, being a powerful basic drive as it is, it motivates individuals to
actively seek partners. Straight men would love to perform sexual activity with
every beautiful woman or girl in the society, even if they are under legal age,
or legally married. Straight women would love to have sex with every hot man in
the society, provided there are no repercussions from the society. Straight
people indulge in everything including one night flings and infidelity all the
time. How could homosexual community be different?
Homosexual community is
a small section of the normal society in every nation, and they want to perform
sexual activity with many partners too. So they have no choice but to approach people
they are interested in, and find out if they are open to homosexual
relationships or not. I have been approached by gay men on more than one occasion,
asking me if I would like to have my penis in their mouth or anus, or I would
like to have theirs’ in mine. I am a straight guy and hence refuse it flatly.
That is the end of the story most of the time. But this is where things get
tricky.
Women do not offer to
have sexual intercourse with me even ten percent the number of times I am approached
by gay men, and a fraction of the women who happen to ask me are sex workers.
And the other problem is; there are times when members of homosexual community
try to influence my choice by mentioning how enjoyable it is to suck another
man’s penis, or have it shoved up one’s anus. This is what I classify as
propaganda! And may I also mention; I derive sexual pleasure when I ejaculate
thinking about putting my penis in a female vagina, and not thinking about having
another man’s penis in my anus or mouth, or my penis in another man’s anus. If
I were to develop any such mental fixation, it would turn me gay! Being gay or
straight is as simple as that; just a fixation.
Nobody had to tell me
how enjoyable it would be to put my penis in a vagina in a straight
relationship. Nobody needs too! Kids grow up into teenagers through various
stages, including one in which they hate the members of the opposite sex, and
finally find a likeness for the members of the opposite sex on their own.
Straight sex comes naturally!
Initiating an
uninitiated person into a homosexual relationship by trying to impress their
views about sex with a member of the same sex, by telling them sexually exciting
content is propaganda, and as wrong as making or marketing straight
pornography, or straight prostitution. In the example of Russian legislation;
if Russia denies homosexuals equal rights or jobs as available to straight
members of the community, it is wrong. But if Russian legislation prohibits
dispensation of literature, media or content inciting homosexual behavior, it
is effectively same as banning straight pornography or prostitution. Where the
legislation stands will determine whether it is completely wrong or partially
right.
ð Where do I stand on
homosexuality:
As mentioned above, I
believe everybody deserves equal rights, no matter what their class differences
are, including their sexual orientation.
If you ask me; do I
consider homosexuality wrong? My answer would be; “It is your life and your
choice. I don’t mind homosexual people living around me in the society. They
are same to me as my any other neighbor or friend, for the basis of my
relationship with neither of them is sex.”
If you ask me; is
homosexuality natural? My answer would be; “It is just a sexual fetish, just
like I love tall blonde slim women in high heels. Some people like
sadistic-masochistic relationships, so on so forth.” Mind you, I may also
mention her, I am yet to have the first sex of my life because I used to
believe pre-marital sex to be a sin, and now I am yet to find a girl I would
love to have a relationship with. I am not going to sleep with every other girl
for I don’t like sexual promiscuity. That is my choice!
If you ask me; do I
want more people to become homosexuals? With all due respect to homosexual
community, and given due consideration to their need of having more partners, my
answer would be; “Without considering the artificial insemination and in-vitro
fertilization techniques, will humanity be able to reproduce if every member of
humanity became homosexual? If the answer is no, then how will humanity
propagate?” Besides, lesbian tall slim blondes in high heels represent a sexual
partner’s loss to me.
It’s your life, your
choice! It’s all in your head!
Fatal Urge Carefree
Kiss “Amanpreet Singh Rai”
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